One thing I always cherish about blogging is the opportunity to address personal feelings which I believe is something a lot of us face as well. Sometimes we get so fixed on “number of people who have visited our blog” and the” number of people who left a comment” that we loose focus on why we started blogging in the first place.

Tips on dealing with negativity

Have you ever dealt with negative people before? If you have, you will know that the experience can be quite a downer. To be honest I don’t often get negative comments or remarks, however they sometimes pop up. I’ve said this before, but there is a big difference between positively criticizing, where you’re genuinely trying to help someone, and straight up nasty or mean observations. Even though I don’t always accomplish detaching myself, I’ve improved and learned that not everyone gets a say in my life. Remember that your life is yours to lead, and it’s up to you on how you want it to be. Your happiness and well being are too important to let anyone’s negative opinion or rude comments bring you down or affect how you view yourself.

Tips on Dealing with Negativity

Tips on Dealing with Negativity

Tips on Dealing with Negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

I had a conversation with a negative person that sucked all the energy right outta me. In our conversations, nothing I do or have done is good – from the way I dress, my blog, my sponsors, in fact everything she said was so cynical and down right negative. Talking to her wasn’t a pleasant experience at all. Initially I was bothered by her words, wondering why she had to be so mean. I also wondered if there was something wrong with me – that perhaps I wasn’t good enough. A really big thanks to Missy May and my boo for boosting me right back up when I was feeling low – God bless you so much.

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

There will always be negative people in our lives, and they won’t always be people we don’t know – they are sometimes are own family, friends, colleagues, church members, roommates etc

After a while, I figured I needed to work out an action plan to deal with negative people. After all, she was not going to be the only negative person I was going to encounter in my life. I thought: “For every 1 negative person I face now, there are probably thousands of them out there whom I’ll meet one day. If I learn how to deal with her effectively, I will be able to handle other negative people the next time.”

Eventually, I have developed several key steps to deal with negative people effectively. These steps have proven very helpful in making the best out of my relationships with them.

Tips on Dealing with Negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

So here are my pieces of advice for you:

1.Do NOT get sucked in or affected! I’m so bad with this one, you have no idea. Sometimes people are mean because they are angry, without actually being it your fault. This does not justify rude a** comments. However, realistically speaking everyone has bad days, maybe in their anger they say something which they will later regret. Of course, it could be also out of jealousy or envy or just boredom. People do and say stupid things without thinking all the time, so what good would it bring you to get affected?

2. Do NOT under any circumstances respond or reciprocate!

If said person is being intentionally mean, the worst thing would be to answer. It will only bring them satisfaction and they might continue to bother you even more. Even if you think it would make you happy to make a smart remark, you’re actually feeding the “evil”. Reciprocating would only stoop you to their level and why would you burden yourself with the negativity?! Better grab a cup of tea to calm down and let your actions speak, this will prove them wrong.

3. Know your worth/truth!

Don’t doubt yourself because of some crude remark, especially when it comes from someone who doesn’t personally know you. If it’s a friend or family member that are trying to help you improve and grow, they will communicate everything in a positive note without trying to make you second guess yourself. Learn to differentiate constructive observations from shabby ones.

4. Just smile and remain completely detached
Whenever the negative tirade starts, just smile and don’t say anything. Remain completely detached from it and don’t get involved in it. Leave the room if you can. Some negative people are simply seeking to get a reaction from you. That’s what they feed on. Don’t let them catch you in their web of negativity because as soon as you do, that’s when they start draining your energy.

5. Organise your time carefully!
The people you spend time with are constantly influencing you and of course you them. Clearly, there is a spill over effect that takes place even after the interaction!By spending more time with negative people, your thoughts and emotions will slowly become negative too. At first it might be temporary, but over time it’ll slowly become ingrained in you. If you feel certain people you meet in your life are negative, then be conscious of how much time you’re spending with them. Ideally I recommend avoiding them all together but if you can’t do that then limit the duration where you can help it. Be mindful of your time, because you won’t get it back.

6. Try translating the message
Something I’ve noticed happening more and more often nowadays is that a lot of people seem to have lost the ability to express their opinion in a polite and constructive way. They come across as mean spirited and rude. You might dismiss their ideas believing their intent is simply to put you down. If you can strip away the aggressive and negative tone, you might see that there is a good point being made. The person simply doesn’t know how to communicate in a positive way and they don’t see that how they’re choosing to express their opinion puts the other person on the defensive instead of making their point. I’m not sure why it seems to be more common now. Some of it is probably an underlying negative attitude of that person and their environment and others may be because they’ve never been taught how to express themselves in an effective way. If you can take the time to ignore what initially might feel like a personal attack against you, you might be able to figure out what they’re really trying to say. If you can do that, you can avoid hurt feelings and may actually achieve something positive in the process.

7. Let go!
Even though it might hurt, sometimes it’s best to just let go and move on. There’s no need or place in your life for negativity. Of course if it’s something that occurs in the workplace, you can’t just quit. However you can choose to spend your time with more positive minded colleagues. If you’re feeling sad/angry/pessimistic sometimes, don’t worry, it’s normal as long as you’re not trying to put other’s down in order to make yourself feel better.

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

Tips on dealing with negativity

There you have it! Hope this helps at least a little. if there’s someone negative in your life at the moment, don’t let yourself be affected by him/her. You’re not alone in your problem – we all face negative people as well and dealing with them is always a learning experience. While people can try to get you down, you’ve a choice in how you react to them.

Drop a comment or two if you’re inspired and don’t forget to try it as well . Have an awesome weekend.

Tips on Dealing with Negativity

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Tips on Dealing with Negativity

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Tips on Dealing with Negativity

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